Anxiety self help involves 4 STAGES of learning, or change

Anxiety Self help is available many forms: - DVD's, CD's, and books (that new term, called "bibliotherapy"!), exercise nutrition programmes, and so on.

With all of these methods, you will be faced with INFORMATION - some of it will be new,  some of it not - or perhaps you know about it, but have never applied it to your life!

This is the process that you will go through, as you "tackle " your challenges:

 Stage 1:UNCONSCIOUS INCOMPETANCE:

At this point  we don't even know that we don't have a skill.

In the case of anxiety or depression, we haven't yet recognised our pattern of state changes- ie when and how we go from feeling good to anxious or depressed.
 

 Stage 2: CONSCIOUS INCOMPETANCE:

This is when we have recognised what our anxiety or depression triggers or anchors are.

We understand that we need to aquire skills to better manage our states.
But we have not yet practised that skill.

 Stage 3: CONSCIOUS COMPETANCE:

We are aware of doing or thinking something in the right way.

We are FOCUSSING on learning a new skill- so we ACTIVELY PRACTISE a new method of doing or thinking something.

We are conscious of our thinking and activity pattern that is giving us a better outcome.

For example- we might start to actively use empowering, positive self talk and "going toward" language, where in the past we may have used self-defeating, negative language, in the same situation.

In summary, we ACTIVELY think about and purposefully engage ourselves, in a REPETITIVE MANNER, in a new, more appropriate and empowering pattern of behaviour in the situation that usually causes panic or anxiety.

 Stage 4: UNCONSCIOUS COMPETANCE:

This is when we dont have to think about our new pattern of behaviour anymore - it just happens AUTOMATICALLY, "without thinking" or "unconsciously".

In other words, we have REWIRED our brain's response pattern.
In order to reach this unconscious competance, we would have needed to do Stage 3 (practise!).
 
Hopefully, you can see from this, that by repeatedly by engaging in POSITIVE thought and language patterns, you can easily learn to be happy, just as you learned to be depressed.
 
If you are in any way skeptical about this, read my information about "TOWARDS" and "AWAY FROM" LANGUAGE, and see if you recognise any of your own patterns of internal dialogue (self talk).

"Repetition is the mother of all skill - just make sure you are repeating enough of the good stuff!"

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