self help involves 4 STAGES of learning, or change
Self help is available many forms: - DVD's, CD's, and books (that new
term, called "bibliotherapy"!), exercise nutrition programmes, and so
With all of these methods, you will be faced
INFORMATION - some of it will be new, some of it not - or
you know about it, but have never applied it to your life!
is the process that you will go through, as you "tackle " your
At this point we don't even know that we
don't have a skill.
In the case of
anxiety or depression, we haven't yet recognised our pattern of state
ie when and how
we go from feeling good to anxious
Stage 2: CONSCIOUS
This is when we have recognised what our anxiety or depression triggers
or anchors are.
We understand that we need to aquire skills to
better manage our
But we have not yet practised that skill.
Stage 3: CONSCIOUS COMPETANCE:
We are aware of doing or thinking something in the right way.
We are FOCUSSING on learning a new skill- so we ACTIVELY PRACTISE a new
method of doing or thinking something.
We are conscious of our thinking and activity pattern that is giving us
a better outcome.
For example- we might start to actively use empowering, positive self
talk and "going toward" language, where
past we may have used self-defeating, negative language, in the same
In summary, we ACTIVELY think about and purposefully engage
in a REPETITIVE MANNER,
in a new, more
appropriate and empowering
pattern of behaviour
in the situation that usually causes panic or anxiety.
This is when we dont have to think about our new pattern of
behaviour anymore - it just happens AUTOMATICALLY, "without
thinking" or "unconsciously".
In other words, we have REWIRED our brain's
In order to reach this unconscious competance, we would have
needed to do Stage 3 (practise!).
Hopefully, you can see from this, that by repeatedly by engaging in POSITIVE
thought and language
patterns, you can easily learn to be happy, just as you learned
to be depressed.
If you are in any way skeptical about this, read my information about
"TOWARDS" and "AWAY FROM" LANGUAGE, and see if you recognise any of
your own patterns of internal dialogue (self talk).
"Repetition is the mother of all skill - just make
are repeating enough of the good stuff!"
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