So
you want to start attacking anxiety and depression head on?
To start
Attacking anxiety and depression without being prepared to change a few
of your beliefs, is like crossing the ocean in a very leaky
boat!
So What are beliefs?
Beliefs are a "knowingness".
An INNATE FEELING OF CERTAINTY about something.
The
interesting thing about beliefs is that most of them are formed as a
result of how our brain
interpreted a pleasurable
or painful experience.
We must understand that A BELIEF IS NOT A FACT.
A belief is an interpretation.
If we understand this, then we can understand that it is possible to
change a belief we have about something, by supplying ourselves with
enough information
and experience to support a new belief.
The sensory
information gathered by our brains about things we see,
feel, hear, smell touch and generally experience is UNIQUE to
ourselves.
An example of this is how you might think a certain
person is an absolute beauty to look at, and incredibly witty.
Your
close friend, on the other hand, might view that person quite
differently and find their features quite plain, and their humour
rather dull!
The layering of our accumulation of complex
experiences is what ultimately constitutes our beliefs.
The language we use to talk to ourselves is vitally important
to what sort of beliefs we will form.
The use of negative or positive language hugely affects our
emotions,
and therefore, our beliefs.
In
a program focussed on attacking anxiety and depression, we must
CAREFULLY watch how we speak to ourselves, and what we allow ourselves
to
interpret from what others are saying.
For example:
the belief that you are "depressed", (a label that you
have given yourself), may give you a feeling of certainty, and your
mind will then find ways to support that belief.
And
this will in turn affect your physiology- resulting in a downward
spiral.
When Attacking anxiety and depression,
a more empowering way to look at things would be to say that
"currently, I'm feeling some of the symptoms of a state of depression"
and the next logical thought should the be ... "so how do I go about
"changing that state"?".
Notice
that you have not "labelled yourself as depressed" - rather, you have
noticed a certain "state" within yourself... and you know that a
"state" can be changed.
Looking at the situation from this perspective - where you are in
charge(asking the question), puts a whole new spin on things.
Suddenly you won't be at a dead end - because you've asked yourself an
intelligent question, your mind is already looking for solutions- a
positive focus - as opposed to the situation where you merely "label
yourself" and feel powerless - the victim mindset!
Remember - a
"state"
is only ever TEMPORARY - it is NOT a life sentence.
So negative LABELLING never offers
solutions.
Clever questions are what are
neccessary.
"The quality of your life will be determined by the quality of
questions you consistently ask yourself" -
Anthony
Robbins - and his books "Awaken The Giant Within" and "Unlimited
Power", explain this all beautifully.
So, attacking anxiety and depression will involve
changing your beliefs.
Also, changing
your beliefs will involve changing the language you consistently use to
talk to yourself.
I'll be providing some examples of positive and negative
language in a link here, soon.
....and if you'd like to, you can buy some excellent belief
modification programmes here!